Receive this mail this morning, sent by a reader of our blog.
Please help me i have a serious problem, My wife and I have always had what I would call a good sex life – about 3 times a week, more or less consistently in the 7 years we’ve been together. I’m 31, she’s 29.
Recently, though, she’s become increasingly insistent, to the point she wants sex every single night and also frequently initiates it in the morning; she’s also said a few times to me that she would have sex twice a day if possible. On a few occasions she has actually woken me up very early in the morning for sex. It pains me to say it, because I still find her very attractive, but I don’t think I can keep up with it. I’m sure you know how it is – I have a normal, busy working life,
But my main concern is that while she’s my wife, I love her, and I think she’s hot, because we’re having sex so often it’s starting to feel like a routine. It’s almost like sex is becoming less a thing we do because we’re attracted to each other, and more a thing we do because we have to – I’m starting to see it almost as a task rather than a sexual act
It kills the passion when it feels so much like something I have to do. And that, in turn, makes the sex itself less passionate and more routine.
It seems ridiculous, because I am sure there are people out there who are going to say “Are you kidding me? This is a problem?” But I’d like to know how to deal with it, because I have no idea how to even broach the subject. How do you tell a woman that you think she’s beautiful, that you enjoy sex with her, but could we dial it down a little bit?
Please help me!!!